Sorry but straight out the gate I am getting right to the point and dispensing with formalities. As we prepare to make changes in the home for the festive season, in like manner we must make changes in our personal lives, if progress is to be attained.
Carefully check your current circle of friends, however small the circle may be, and you will see that some are in the game but not worthy of the name. They are in your life with the same characteristics as that of a knife.
Now ask the question, what does he/she bring, if anything. Toxic people are dead-weight in your life. They can be likened to energy vampires who drain and siphon the blood from your veins, and the positive energy from your heart and mind.
You feel tired, frustrated, stressed and unfocused after being around them. Commonly, far too many of you make excuses and keep being around them anyway. Largely because of the relationship you share.
Here is the deeper end underlying all this. Sometimes toxic people are drawn to you because of how you feel about yourself on the inside. When you do not feel good about yourself, no matter how you try to hide that, you send out a negative frequency energy that attracts toxic people.
Sometimes it is just a case of misery liking company. A way of staying around and befriending others who complain yet never realize that they are their own solutions. So far too many people live life being a problem to themselves and attracting people who will help them in the process.
Sometimes YOU are in your own way and the toxic people around you are helping you put up the roadblocks. Remember that toxic people defy logic.
Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons. Either way, they create unnecessary complexity, strife, and worst of all stress.
If you want to achieve progress or make strides you are going to have to drop the deadweight in your life.
People who always complain; people who never get results because they sabotage their own efforts; people who take more from you than they contribute to your life and people who tell you that you cannot do what you are trying to do.
But really it is just that they cannot believe that they are able to do it so they don’t believe you can do it either. How many times have you heard someone say “if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is”?
I never say that about anything. Why not? Because while I do not just blindly believe something is great until I do further analysis, I do believe that I deserve it. Every bit of it. Sometimes a change of scenery is needed, or even consideration given to a career change. .
You need to rid yourself of the toxic friends that you have, and you know who they are.
Not only are they rubbing off on you, they are also draining positive energy that you need in order to make things happen in your life. If you cannot completely drop toxic people completely because of the nature of the relationship, you are going to have to keep them at arm’s length, and minimize contact and communication.
I can hear you muttering under your breath, that it is easier said than done. And while I do not necessarily disagree with you, nevertheless, it still has to be done. So, talking about how hard it is to accomplish would not help anything.
Sad but true, it’s time to leave the church where you are. Why? Again, and straight on your plate, because they are taking from you more than they are pouring into you.
And you do not need to be somewhere that feeds you only what you want to hear. You need to be somewhere that challenges you to go higher, be better and keep growing.
There is a lot more that I could write about, but this article was just to get the wheels turning, to prod you to wake up and do a self-assessment as well as assess those around you.
To look at what is not working for you and do something differently. To set goals to go higher because you can if nothing is holding you down. Here is the bottom line. Every person in your life is either an asset or a liability. And liabilities need to go.
Finally, whatever you do, make sure that when you look in the mirror, you are not in your own way.
Make sure you are not the toxic person who is poisoning yourself. It is time for a mental, spiritual and emotional detox. Do not waste time – be thorough, get to it before the new year begins.
Eagles do not make excuses. Eagles only fly with eagles. And you cannot fly high with dead weight. Here is to your success in flight.
Aleuta continua—- The struggle continues.
