Young males are losing touch with an integral element of true masculinity.
It is now the general consensus that 2021 sucked, and I am not going to be a dissenter, nor put up an argument against such a statement, mostly because I have lost the ability to argue with anyone but myself, and the truth does augur liberation.
However, before any questions are asked about how pleased I am about this acquired state of being, let us instead focus on the question that has from time immemorial occupied a starring role in the holiday play—New Year Resolutions.
This year, thanks to Covid 19, we will not be running into one another to ask what are you doing on New Year’s Eve, or what are your New Year’s resolutions, and in any case, if we did run into one another there would likely be very little to report.
Humans are simply wandering around looking for their individual New Year’s purpose. Thanks to the pandemic, the face of people and things have been completely altered.
We cannot wait for 2021 to be over. However, as we settle in to face winter in a pandemic season, certain things must be said to ensure community progress in the year ahead.
The change should not be tied to a new year for although the custom of making New Year resolutions has been around for thousands of years, it has not always looked the way it looked today.
Plainly put or politically correctly stated, our society is upside down, and replete with “soft “ males. A state of gender confusion prevails.
Today, many men both young and old are confused as to what it means to be a man, and question whether they should be strong, masculine leaders or should they be softer, more feminine.
The feminist movement has exerted considerable influence and leverage over the massive social changes that took place in the last few years.
The traditional roles for men, as leaders, husbands, fathers, providers, and protectors—have now become the focal point of criticism and ridicule in newspaper articles, books, movies and television sitcoms.
The truth be told, all the blame for the dilemma of today’s men should not be attributed to the feminist movement. Men have had their own part in creating the “soft male” syndrome.
Soft masculinity blurs the lines between masculinity and femininity, integrating characteristics more often associated with womanhood. On the surface level, the impact of soft masculinity, with interests in fashion, personal care and experience is significant.
The majority of today’s families are suffering from absentee fathers. Many men are shunning their responsibilities at home, and allowing themselves to become mere shadows in the family.
Ponder for a moment on this scenario: tonight, how many homes will have a father either sleeping on a couch or absorbed in a sports program on television, while the mother is busy assisting the children with homework or other activities? Far too many!
Men are conceding their positions as leader, energizer, and influencer to their wives. As a consequence, our sons (and daughters also) are growing up without a father actively involved and guiding their young lives.
Many females have been forced to be both father and mother.
Today’s sons are growing up under a heavy feminine influence, in a female-dominated society.
Sadly, although the problem has been recognized in today’s men, they have failed to realize the gloomy consequences if the problem is not remedied .
Let us consider yet another factor contributing to the effect of “soft males.” Rising divorce rates have produced a large number of female-dominated, single parent families. In other words, too many sons are growing
up without any male role models in the home.
Some men are failing today in marriage and in their family life because they will not take hold of or seize their God-ordained authority.
They prefer that women assume the role of leader and decision maker. When a man is weak or when a woman usurps a man’s authority, tragic events
take place, and usually, children suffer the most. In comparison to a woman’s body, a man’s body and cell structure was designed to handle hard physical labor, hence men were designed to be the providers.
Men should be hard working so that they can provide for the needs of the family.
Our society is full of men who are just too lazy to work. Too many men are on the take. They are leaving it to the government or other family members to provide for their families, forcing many women to work outside of the home because their husbands are not.
The question arises as to, “what should a man do if he loses his job? Simple, he should work eight hours a day to get another job! Until he finds a job, he should also be willing to work several part-time jobs.
If he cannot find a job in his area of training? Then he should pursue the proper education or retraining to obtain a job. Having a good work ethic is a large part of developing strong character in men.
Even the Good Book cashes in on the topic, as Paul addresses the issue of idleness and calls on the church at Thessalonica to avoid any brother who makes idleness habitual: “For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat” (2 Thessalonians 3:10). ”
It is blatantly evident that our present day culture is stripping young men of their created purpose, and then we wonder as to why they are struggling. Men were meant to be strong. Still we condone, tolerate and facilitate their weakness. This is one of the most telling markers of socio-cultural decay. There is no virtue in physical decline. Men are beginning to recognize that
being “soft” is not solving society’s problems.
So OUT with males oh so “Soft”! IN with heads proudly held “Aloft”.
Aleuta—– The struggle continues.
