What you decide to focus on will determine your present reality. So, my questions are: What are you focusing on? Where are you placing all of your energy? Does your focus promote positivity or negativity in your life?
Peter McWilliams said, “Our thoughts create our reality, where we put our focus is the direction we tend to go.”
When I think of the word “focus”, I think of driving a car.
When you’re driving, you look straight ahead and you usually know where you’re going. You are aware that there may be a few obstacles along the way like stop signs, traffic and detours, but you know that it’s part of the process.
As you continue on your journey, you’re focused on moving forward and arriving at your destination.
But, if you begin to pay more attention to what’s going on in the rear view mirror and you’re constantly looking back at an accident or a tailgater, etc., as you drive, you will begin to lose focus and the car will begin to swerve all over the road and you will get completely off track and miss your destination.
When you keep looking back, you will not be able to clearly see what’s ahead.
It’s the same thing with life; if you begin to focus more on your past hurts, pain and disappointments instead of focusing on what’s going on in the present and making intentional plans for your future, you will not progress.
Focus is necessary in order to move towards your destiny, whatever that might be. Whether it’s getting in shape, going back to school, learning a new skill or just cleaning out your closets, you will need to focus on the goal ahead in order to succeed.
Keep focusing on your purpose, your calling and your goals and you will stay on course.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you ignore your past hurts or the challenges that may arise, it means that you must find a way to work through them, heal and begin the process of moving forward.
Again, this is not always an easy task, but it is a necessary one. You want to learn from your past, but you don’t want to be imprisoned by it.
We should focus more on solutions to our challenges and not just continually focus on the actual problem.
You have the power to decide today what you are going to continue to focus on.
If you have something that you want to accomplish you will have to stay focused. It’s so easy to get derailed and distracted; if that happens, re-focus and get back on track.
Focus on being the best version of you, don’t just focus on your fears and insecurities.
Focus on what feeds your soul. Focus on the possibilities.
Stay focused on what’s important in your life and see where it takes you.
And remember…
When you stay focused you will maximize your results.
Your Life and Grief Coach,
Bev